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بے قرار کر کے ہمیں یوں نہ جائیے Bekaraar Karke Humein Yun Na Jaaiye — Don't Leave Us Like This, Restless As We Are

Shailendra

1923– 1966

Geet

Someone is leaving, and the man left behind asks her to come back. But he does not beg for himself. He warns her about the world she is walking into, the odd roads of life, the roses that reach out to kiss your feet, the lost bees in the garden that might mistake her for a flower. It is a love song made entirely out of somebody else's safety.

Shailendra wrote it for Bees Saal Baad in 1962, a psychological thriller of all things, and Hemant Kumar both composed and sang it. Five passages ahead, and the last warning is the one that made the song immortal.

01  — be-qaraar karke hamein yun na jaaiye

بے قرار کر کے ہمیں یوں نہ جائیے
آپ کو ہماری قسم لوٹ آئیے

बे-क़रार कर के हमें यूँ न जाइए
आप को हमारी क़सम लौट आइए

be-qaraar karke hamein yun na jaaiye
aapko hamaari qasam laut aaiye

Don't leave us like this, restless as you have made us. By our oath, come back.

The demand comes first, and then the strange instrument it makes use of. Aapko hamaari qasam is normally said to someone you love to make them promise something. Here he turns it round: he makes her swear by his own oath, so that her leaving would break a promise that she never made and he did. The plural hamein is the formality of Urdu politeness and also a small audience being dragged in as witnesses.

بے قرار be-qaraar
restless; literally, without stillness
قسم qasam
an oath, a vow

02  — zindagi ke raaste ajeeb hain

زندگی کے راستے عجیب ہیں
ان میں اس طرح چلا نہ کیجیے
خیر ہے اسی میں آپ کی حضور
اپنا کوئی ساتھی ڈھونڈ لیجیے

ज़िंदगी के रास्ते अजीब हैं
इन में इस तरह चला न कीजिए
ख़ैर है उसी में आप की हुज़ूर
अपना कोई साथी ढूँढ लीजिए

zindagi ke raaste ajeeb hain
inme is tarah chala na kijiye
khair hai isi mein aapki huzoor
apna koi saathi dhundh lijiye

Life's roads are strange. Don't walk them carelessly. And it is in your own interest, my lady, that you go and find yourself some companion.

The compliment is buried in the warning. Ajeeb means strange, uncanny, the wrong side of odd, and the road is being described the way you would describe a haunted place. Then the fourth line opens the door it has been guarding all along: go find a companion. Khair hai isi mein aapki gives the dismissal the form of advice, and huzoor, the deferential address, makes the advice sound like a courtier's. He is demoting himself in the same breath that he lets her go.

عجیب ajeeb
strange, uncanny
خیر khair
welfare, good; what is in someone's interest
حضور huzoor
my lady, my lord; the formal address

03  — sun ke dil ki baat yun na muskuraaiye

سن کے دل کی بات یوں نہ مسکرائیے
آپ کو ہماری قسم لوٹ آئیے
بے قرار کر کے ہمیں یوں نہ جائیے

सुन के दिल की बात यूँ न मुस्कुराइए
आप को हमारी क़सम लौट आइए
बे-क़रार कर के हमें यूँ न जाइए

sun ke dil ki baat yun na muskuraaiye
aapko hamaari qasam laut aaiye
be-qaraar karke hamein yun na jaaiye

When you hear what the heart has to say, don't just smile at it. By our oath, come back. Don't leave us like this, restless as you have made us.

The one line in the song that speaks plainly about the heart, and even it is a warning. Dil ki baat, the heart's business, is being told to her, and her only answer so far has been a smile, which the song treats as a deflection. Yun na muskuraiye: do not smile it away. He needs the smile answered by a return.

مسکرانا muskurana
to smile

04  — dekhiye gulaab ki wo daaliyan

دیکھیے گلاب کی وہ ڈالیاں
بڑھ کے چوم لیں نہ آپ کے قدم
کھوئے کھوئے بھنورے بھی ہیں باغ میں
کوئی آپ کو بنا نہ لے صنم

देखिए गुलाब की वो डालियाँ
बढ़ के चूम लें ना आप के क़दम
खोए खोए भँवरे भी हैं बाग़ में
कोई आप को बना न ले सनम

dekhiye gulaab ki wo daaliyan
badh ke chum le na aapke qadam
khoye khoye bhanvare bhi hain baagh mein
koi aapko bana na le sanam

Look at those branches of roses. They may lean forward and kiss your feet. And there are lost, wandering bees in the garden. Let none of them take you for their own, my beloved.

The famous passage, and the trick is that every threat is also a compliment. Rose branches reaching to kiss your feet: the garden itself falls for her. Chum lena keeps both senses, the kiss and the catching hold of. Then the bees, bhanvare, the lover- bee of all poetry, who mistake flowers for women and are being warned off mistaking her for a flower. She is being told she is too beautiful for the world she is walking through.

ڈالی daali
a branch
چومنا choomna
to kiss
بھنورا bhanvara
a large bee; in poetry, the lover who hovers

05  — behki behki nazron se khud ko bachaiye

بہکی بہکی نظروں سے خود کو بچائیے
آپ کو ہماری قسم لوٹ آئیے
بے قرار کر کے ہمیں یوں نہ جائیے

बहकी बहकी नज़रों से ख़ुद को बचाइए
आप को हमारी क़सम लौट आइए
बे-क़रार कर के हमें यूँ न जाइए

behki behki nazron se khud ko bachaiye
aapko hamaari qasam laut aaiye
be-qaraar karke hamein yun na jaaiye

Guard yourself from your own straying eyes. By our oath, come back. Don't leave us like this, restless as you have made us.

The last danger is her, and the song has saved her for last. Behki behki nazrein: eyes that keep drifting off course, and he asks her to protect herself from them, khud ko bachaiye. Everything else in the poem was outside her. This is the one warning she has to keep herself, and it is the one she cannot. It is also the quietest way the language has of saying that her straying is the whole problem, and the whole point.

بہکی ہوئی behki hui
strayed, wandered off course
بچانا bachana
to protect, to save

Reading it whole

The whole song is a plea wearing the clothes of a weather report. He never once says I will miss you. Everything is phrased as information you need before you go. Life's roads are strange, so do not walk them carelessly. And then the line that quietly changes everything: khair hai isi mein aapki, apna koi saathi dhundh lijiye. It is in your own interest, find yourself some companion. He is telling her to go find somebody else, and the sentence is the most generous in the song, and also the saddest, because the somebody else is not going to be him.

The second warning is the famous one. Those rose branches, they lean toward your feet to kiss them. That is a lovely image and the song means it as a threat. A rose reaching for your step is a rose that will catch your ankle, and chum le keeps both the kiss and the catching in the same verb. Even the garden cannot be trusted with her. And the bees, lost and wandering, khoye khoye bhanware, might decide that she is a flower. She is being warned against her own appeal.

The last warning turns inward, and it is the one people repeat. Behki behki nazron se khud ko bachaiye. Protect yourself from your own straying eyes. The danger has finally been named, and it is her. A gaze that wanders is the only thing in the poem that is entirely hers, and he asks her to guard even that from herself. It is the politest possible way of saying that she is the risk she is running.

Hemant Kumar sang it in his flat, un-showy voice, which is exactly right for a plea that refuses to raise its voice. The film is remembered for the mystery, and the song is remembered for being the one quiet thing in it. Saregama's reissue is the recording everyone knows.

Recordings

  • Hemant Kumar

    From Bees Saal Baad (1962), composed by Hemant Kumar himself. Saregama's reissue.

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Text and rights

Devanagari text supplied and checked by a reader who knows the language. The Urdu script and the transliteration follow that reading.

From the 1962 film Bees Saal Baad, composed by Hemant Kumar. The refrain returns between passages in the recording, more often than it is printed here.

Shailendra died in 1966, so this song is still in copyright. It is quoted here as the subject of Harf's own criticism: the translation, the reading of each passage and the essay around them are original work written for this page. If you hold the rights and would like something changed, tell us on Instagram.